I’m a big believer in marking significant moments with a photo… and often, a selfie. Especially a goofy one.
I admit it. I take lots of selfies. I suppose for a gal who lives alone and documents her DIY life on the internet, I have a good excuse. Several, in fact.
- Charlie has no thumbs, so there’s usually no one else to take them.
- Try as he might when he visits, Dad is still learning how not to turn the iPhone from camera to video (every. time.)
- The rareness of great hair days are pretty convincing photo-wise; I’m usually covered in some type of dust, dirt, or sweat.
So when milestones come, like graduation, I make sure that there is a photo. More than one. Something that makes me feel more “official”.
Graduation was held this week on a Wednesday at 2pm. Which is incredibly inconvenient for someone with a full time day job. And since the ceremony was going to basically lump me in with undergrads and folks from other graduate programs (as in, no walking-across-the-stage action because the graduation ceremony was too large), I chose not to do the cap and gown thing. I still took the morning to go to a special graduate program brunch (in which I did get to walk across the stage). The cap and gown would have been nice, but I just hated the idea of it feeling so impersonal.
But the point of this post: It’s easy to justify not celebrating big moments these days. To run right over them and move on. Despite the end of school, I’m still busy with the holidays, wanting to see friends (yay, freedom!), blogging, finishing DIY projects, my new web design business, and general catching-up-ery. Lots of sleeping, too (I think I’m simply in recovery mode; every other student I’ve spoken to lately is confessing to hibernating like I am).
I may be tired, but I’m choosing not to take Mom’s advice and do nothing but rest. It’s just not in me. Don’t get me wrong – I’m still sleeping a good bit. But the wheels still turn, and being idle just makes me anxious. Instead, I want to make sure that it really feels, without a doubt, like there is an ending. That means a new beginning… in a tingly-in-the-toes sort of way. I know none of them will be extended celebrations; taking a vacation right now would probably cause me more stress than actually help ease my mind. But there are still ways I can celebrate, even if it’s just for a moment or two.
Tips to Make Smooth Transitions from One BIG Project to the Next:
1. Don’t pretend as if you’re not finishing one thing and starting another. Don’t treat it as a speed bump. Give plenty of thought to the feeling of completion. Even if you only meditate on it for a few minutes each day, try to focus and relish in your accomplishment for a little while.
2. Mark the moments by taking a few photos. I love social media specifically for this reason. Yes, it’s a little self-centered to be all “look at me”, but do it anyway and let others congratulate you. Especially if they’ve had to hear you whine for two whole years and love you despite all of it. It’s a completion of sorts for them, too.
3. Drink some champagne. And then do it again. Special days call for special booze.
4. Cross that mother off a list. If you don’t already have an actual list written down somewhere, write one up just for the sake of ceremony. Then cross that mother off the list.
5. Add new goals to your list. Part of ending one chapter is beginning another!
Now that I’ve crossed off “MBA by 30” from my list, it’s time to move some of the other things up:
My big “to do” list:
MBA by 30
Like I said: it’s on here just for the opportunity to draw that line. Dunzo.
- That house versus home thing? Yeah. Get on that.
I’ve been working on home projects, but not to the extent I’d really like to. Now that school is over, I really want to have a home I can have regular get-togethers and dinner in. Not just a house undergoing constant change and Netflix re-runs. In my mind, there’s a big distinction between the two. I want both, but the space I live in should really be a space for living in and not just working on. I think the laundry room is actually a step in the right direction by giving myself a place that is more functional and home-y. And turning my attention to the fireplace in the living room, finishing the kitchen, and then the dining room (in the new year) will go a long way toward accomplishing this goal.
- Get out of the house and go on a date, for God’s sake.
For the sake of calling myself out on where I really need to put more of my time, I have neglected my love life. As in, met a couple of nice guys here and there, gave them my number, and then not texted/called them back. I even quietly pined after a guy in my grad school program that was completely unavailable (it at least made four hour classes easier to get through, which is a pretty tough task). But that kind of behavior isn’t exactly going to get me what I really want – which is creating a home and family with someone else in my life. So now that things are going to start adjusting and my “too busy” excuse has evaporated, I have to actually… you know… try. It makes me uncomfortable to put goals that depend on another person on my list (and even more uncomfortable to admit it out loud), but without acknowledging the effort I need to make in the void that is my love life, it’s pretty much going to stay that way. Like that face from when I was a kid.
- Put on my running shoes.
For the first year of school, I was proud of myself for staying physically active. And then I let myself use my own busy schedule against me. I was working toward finally feeling happy and comfortable in my own skin – enough to actually share my progress on the internet, which was pretty damn nerve-wracking, but felt great once I finally did it. I miss the elated feeling I get after reaching a fitness goal. So, simply put: it’s time to go back to wearing yoga pants and then actually go do yoga.
- Do something BIG.
This one’s harder to pin down. I feel like I have the knowledge and the energy to do something new and different than what I’ve been doing up to this point; I just don’t know what that is yet. “Ruler of my own planet” seems like a good choice, but I may be overreaching. I might have to let this one come to me on its own, but I’ll figure it out eventually. And I’ll be sure to keep you in the loop when I do.
And…. that’s it so far. Lists don’t have to be long; they just have to help you figure out what’s next. What about you? Do you have any big accomplishments coming up? If you do, leave a comment and I’ll be sure to congratulate you. And then also tell me what’s next on your list!
Have a wonderful weekend, and be sure to check back in on Monday. I decided to write out a fun holiday poem (in true UDH style). I had so much fun with it, I can’t wait to share.
P.S. A few have asked that I allow gifts to be sent for graduation, and I could not be more wowed by your generosity! I will have an address for you next week.